Loving the Unbeliever
Question:
Assalamu ' Alaykum. I want to ask about love. I am a Muslim guy who loves a Christian girl. To love is to give; do this (ie the act I gave her, ed.) will (cause me) to sin to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala ?
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Answer:
Need to distinguish between love tabi'i and love syar'i. Loving an Unbeliever because of her religion or because she hates Islam is a form of love to disbelief. This is called love syar'i. As for loving the unbelievers because it is part of our nature, such as loving non-Muslim parents or non-muslim wives, then this is a love that is allowed. As the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam loved his uncle (Abu Talib) because of the great service of Abu Talib for his da'wah sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam, even though Abu Talib was an Unbeliever, until he died.
However, if this love of tabi'i causes a loving person to commit immorality or shirk, even more so if it causes people to leave Islam, then the law (loving Unbeliever) is forbidden.
The answer above is not advising you to marry a Christian. We would advise you not to marry non-Muslim (Unbeliever) women for several reasons:
1) Whatever the condition, Muslim women are much better than non-Muslim women.
Allah says,
وَلَا تَنْكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكَاتِ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنَّ ۚ وَلَأَمَةٌ مُؤْمِنَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ مُشْرِكَةٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَتْكُمْ ۗ وَلَا تُنْكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكِينَ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنُوا ۚ وَلَعَبْدٌ مُؤْمِنٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ مُشْرِكٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكُمْ ۗ أُولَٰئِكَ يَدْعُونَ إِلَى النَّارِ ۖ وَاللَّهُ يَدْعُو إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَالْمَغْفِرَةِ بِإِذْنِهِ ۖ وَيُبَيِّنُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَذَكَّرُونَ
"And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you. And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember."
2) Marrying an unbeliever woman will add more to your responsibility to your family, while the husband has a responsibility to educate his wife and children. Thus, it will be very difficult for you to teach your wife about Muamalah "ways to interact with others" in Islam.
3) It is feared that the wife can affect your child, so the wife will invite your child to embrace the religion of Christianity, or even-openly-make a covenant like this:
"If the child is a boy then he follow the father religion and if the child is a girl then she follow the mother religion. "
"If The father Allows This Kind of Things Happen, this action like he has put his childer to hell."
May Allah give tawfik to all of us. Amen.
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