Helping Wives at Home is Sunnah

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One of the sunnah that may begin to be abandoned by husbands is to help his wife and her work at home, hopefully husbands can apply this sunnah even if only a little. Some husbands can be ignorant to the work of his wife at home especially when the wife's work is very much and also  children who have to be taken care of and educated.

It is the habit and sunna of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam to help work his wife at home.

'Aisha radhiallahu' anha said,

This is the nature of tawaadhu '(humble) of the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam and exemplifies in humans, even though he is a leader and the highest qadhi of the Muslims. There may be a husband who feels himself to be inferior when doing deeds and domestic work because he is a big man and even the boss at his workplace.

Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani said to explain this hadeeth,

من أخلاق الأنبياء التواضع, والبعد عن التنعم, وامتهان النفس ليستن بهم ولئلا يخلدوا إلى الرفاهية المذمومة

"Among the morals of the prophets (All prophets) is the tawaadhu" and so far from having fun (abundantly) and training themselves for this, so that they are not constantly in a disgraceful luxury (absolute luxury impeccable). " 

(Fathul Bari book of things p.472)

Helping a wife can be done with a simple job, sometimes helping the simple things alone have made happy and happy the wives, such as sweeping over the course, washing dishes and others.

In another hadith, 'A'ishah reported that the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam did simple things to help his wives such as lifting buckets and sewing his clothes.

عن عروة قال قلت لعائشة يا أم المؤمنين أي شيء كان يصنع رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم إذا كان عندك قالت ما يفعل أحدكم في مهنة أهله يخصف نعله ويخيط ثوبه ويرفع دلوه

Urwah said to Aishah, "O Ummul Mukminin, what does the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam do if he is with you (in your house)?", Aisha said, "He did (as) what did one of you when helping his wife, he fixes his sleeves, sews his clothes, and lifts the water in a bucket. " 
(Ibn Hibban's)

This is a good form of muamalah to the wife and commanded in the Quran.

Allah says,

.....وعاشروهن بالمعروف.....

" O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them in order to take [back] part of what you gave them unless they commit a clear immorality. And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them - perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good. " 

(Surat an-Nisaa: 19)

And the word of God,

...ولهن مثل الذي عليهن بالمعروف....

"Divorced women remain in waiting for three periods, and it is not lawful for them to conceal what Allah has created in their wombs if they believe in Allah and the Last Day. And their husbands have more right to take them back in this [period] if they want reconciliation. And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable. But the men have a degree over them [in responsibility and authority]. And Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise " 

(Surat al-Baqarah: 228)

Doing good to the wife is a form of actual morality (original morals) a husband. Wife is a "subordinate husband" and someone will easily vent his bad mood when facing people who degrees / positions below. Therefore, as well as good morality a person is the best against his wife.

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, he said:

وخياركم خياركم لنسائهم خلقا

'As good as you guys are who the best of morals towards his wives ' 

(HR At-Tirmidhi As-Sahihah no 284)

A husband at home with his wife and family should not be ignorant and rude, but must be friendly and nice with his family and his wife.

From Thabit bin Ubaid said,

عن ثابت بن عبيد رحمه الله قال: ما رأيت أحدا أجل إذا جلس مع القوم, ولا أفكه في بيته, من زيد بن ثابت

I have never seen such an authoritative person while sitting with comrades yet so intimate and hilarious while at home over Zaid bin Thabit " 

(Al-Adab al-Mufrad by al-Bukhari no 286)

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